Many caregivers are responsible for more than one of their loved ones. There may still be children in the home who are in school. There may be children who have just left for college. There may be an ailing spouse or an aging parent. When does the caregiver take or find time for him or herself? Does she grow tired and weary? Is she on occasion frustrated, angry, confused? How often does she have a pity party? Caregiving is often not a shared responsibility. Sometimes the caregiver is the only family member living in close proximity to the loved one. Sometimes other family members do not feel suited for this task. How does the designated caregiver cope? Resources, friends, professionals and experts are available to share information to make this new-found role less overwhelming. Remember caregivers need care too.
Caregivers and Denial
Can you remember the first time you started denying something? Was it when you accidentally lost something from an elementary teacher? Was it a matter of convenience in your preteen years? Has denial continued to be a part of your life as you have become a mature and responsible adult? Many caregivers deal with denial on a day-to-day basis. Sometimes we tell ourselves our loved ones are constantly improving or their health situation is not as bad as it seems or it is going to get better. We just have to allow more time and patience. Have we convinced ourselves that our denial is reality or are we continuing to “pull the wool” over our own eyes? As we continue to avoid the reality of our loved ones aging and ailing process, how are we helping ourselves to be more effective caregivers? What steps are you taking to overcome the denial of your caregiving relationship? I would be pleased for you to share with our community. Leave your message for others to share.
What’s Next?
This is the first week after the holidays. Are you feeling more refreshed? More relaxed? Are you prepared for the new year as a caregiver? Family members have come to visit and perhaps shared with some of the day-to-day responsibilities. Friends have brought presents and shared memories of the past. What is your next move as the caregiver? Did you have enough down time? Have you sought out assistance in your caregiving role? Are you determined to make this year better for you and for your loved one with your caregiving tasks? Resources, assistance and support are available. Make others aware that you are open and available. Remember, caregivers need care too.
New Year New You
How you thought about New Year’s resolutions or goals or objectives? Have you actually taken the time to write out some ideas that you are set on accomplishing for 2011? How did you feel after you completed the list? Why did you select some of the goals for this year? Are the goals or resolutions yours or what you think someone else wants to see you achieve? Let’s take another look at our resolutions if you have already written them. If you haven’t, let’s think carefully before we make those resolutions. Is this what you want? How will it change your life? Are you willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen? What will happen if you don’t accomplish this goal? 2011 can be about you and what is important in your life as a person and as a caregiver. You get to make the decision. Let’s do what we have to do to make 2011 the year for our real makeover. Wishing you peace, love and truth for this new year.