When do the holidays officially start? Somewhere around Halloween? Our expectations grow. Stress starts to increase. Who’s coming for dinner? Are they spending the night? If so, are there dietary restrictions? Are they bringing additional guests who have never visited before?
Are they sharing in the food preparation? Should prepared meals be purchased? Are we able to go out for the holiday dinner?
These are some of the questions famiies face during the holiday season. Let’s imagine these questions in addition to caring for a loved one who is no longer able to provide the proper care for themselves. Do you feel the stress compounding?
We are in the midst of the hoilday season. What are you as the caregiver in your family doing as a caregiver to take better care of yourself?
Have you suggested that friends and family members bring a dish to share? How about a potluck dinner? Holidays are really about quality time spent with loved ones. Do they really know the difference between your homemade pie and one from the local bakery? More importantly, do you have the time and the energy to make those specialties while caring for your loved one?
If you do, when are you getting the necessary rest and attention you need and deserve?
Whenever friends, family member or associates call asking if there is something they can do to assist you with your caregiving needs, please respond with an errand, a task or volunteer service.
They really do want to help.
Do not hesitate to shorten visits from family and friends. You are enjoying their company, but are most likely exhaiusted from your day-to-day routine and the extras for this holiday season.They understand.
It is also important to make friends and family aware of the health of the person who is being cared for. Perhaps there have been major changes since they last saw or spoke with your loved one. Will Mom or Dad recognize them? Do young children make too much noise? Does your loved one sleep most of the day? Do they wander around? Consider the inconvenience of the loved one.
Holiday caregiving can be easier for you and the family if you allow others to assist you and don’t make grand plans that will leave you more stressed and tired after the holidays end.
Remember that you are a special gift to the family, to yourself and to your loved one. Take advantage of offerings. — a movie, spa day, shopping, time out. YOU NEED CARE TOO.