Spending time with loved ones matters. I recently spent a few days with my aunt who is almost 82 and uncle who will be 90 in the summer. So many memories were shared. There was the feeling of love and compassion. Excitement filled the air. We were all up later than we should have been and earlier than I think they usually rise.
We sat and talked about summer visits during my childhood. We looked over the many photo albums she has stored with pictures of relatives known and unknown. There were tears of joy and sadness. My only male cousin — her son, who was murdered 10 years ago still brings up sadness for her. There were photos from amusement parks, birthday celebrations, births, reunions, weddings and so much more. He was in many of those photos with a handsome smile.
They are both very active. We went to her weekly line dancing class. Others were following her lead and stopping between the dances for water breaks. She stayed on the floor for the entire class and was not winded. We had taken a two mile walk earlier in the day before the class.
This week they will be attending and participating the closing ceremony for the senior games. They have at least 10 awards between the two of them. Their choir will be singing for this event. They living their lives the golden way.
I can not imagine how much this visit meant to all of us. Before it was time for me to leave, they told me how much they enjoyed my visit and how happy they were that I had taken the time to come to visit with them.
Indeed I feel I am really the beneficiary from this visit. If you have family members you haven’t seen recently and you are able to visit them, take the time to visit. If you are not able to visit, give them a call. At least send a card.
Personal touch means so much. We all need it.
During a recent shopping trip, I passed a lady shopping for the perfect greeting card for a friend. She was thinking out loud. Realizing I was near and probably heard her #self talk, she apologized for talking to herself. We both smiled and I commented, she was most likely the best person to talk to.
Most of us have monologues with ourselves. What did I do with my keys? What time am I supposed to be there? When was the last time I wore this? These one-sided conversations have become rather normal.
Sometimes we are less than positive with our banter. “I always miss the turn; I should not wear this; I can’t believe this traffic;How could I forget ….
Let’s continue with our self talk. Let’s do it more often. Let’s make it positive. I am grateful. It is all working out favorably. I can laugh at this. I can do this.
When our self talk is positive, we feel better about what we are going to and what we are going through. Next time someone unexpectedly catches you right in the middle of your self talk, continue your conversation with the greatest listener you know and greet that person knowing that they also understand the creation of a great conversation with self.
Go out and have yourself a wonderful day knowing that you are loved, brilliant and a great self motivator.
Do you remember having the “talk”? It could have been the first day of school, your first car, that first date, leaving for college, getting engaged, divorced or returning to your parents’ home.
Two of the most dreaded “talks” that come to mind for our gracefully aging population are realizing our parents are no longer able to adequately care for themselves or that we are no longer able to care for ourselves physically or financially.
Recent conversations with friends, family, clients and colleagues reveal this message in some form or fashion; the uncertain future for many #baby boomers. Do we sell our homes? Is it more beneficial to downsize? Should we move to be closer to family members or friends? How about inviting family members or trusted friends to live with us?
The talk allows us to tell our story lovingly, kindly and honestly. This discussion has little resemblance to that talk of our adolescent years when our friends were the experts. We have done the research. We are facing the realities of life. This conversation is about truth. Are we able to care for ourselves or care for our loved ones in the manner that is deserved? The talk matters and deserves our diligent attention and preparation. Are health challenges — mental or physical a part of the equation?
Remember, we are all human and need each other. It is not about mere survival, but thriving through the ages. Be sure to examine your own feelings and those of your parents as we make these major lifestyle changes and decisions. Everyone’s opinion matters and deserves to be heard. Listening, acceptance, inclusion are crucial as we make this journey.
This conversation may be the most important talk we have ever have. Make it worth your time and that of your love ones. It’s a part of our New Beginning.
Let me know how it goes.
Joy and light,
Anita Baker is an artist I have enjoyed for more than 30 years. I listened to her ballads as romantic overtures. You may be familiar with some of her top hits.
- You Bring Me Joy
- No One in The World
- Sweet Love
- You’re the Best Thing Yet
- Giving You the Best I’ve Got
However recently listening to those same lyrics, I realized they are about self love, empowerment and healing. As we spend time caring for others, we can easily lay our feelings, thoughts and emotions to the side. We forget to be the best that we have in our lives and bring joy to ourselves while we are constantly bringing that same joy to others. We teach others how to treat us. Perhaps I have evolved or really didn’t take the time to understand the real meaning of the music three decades ago.
If we believe that nothing happens until it is time for it to happen, my time to get the true meaning of those songs has come. I am happy to be able to share this with you. I suggest that during this weekend, you listen to some of those songs and determine if they resonate with you and take appropriate self-care actions.
It is time for us to practice more self love, gratitude and appreciation. The New Year is the perfect time to begin our New Beginning. Whether it is moving to an Anita Baker tune or one of your favorite artist. Go out — which is really going within and practice your Sweet Love because you are the best thing that is happening to YOU.
Wishing you the best 2017. Stay tuned for some great programs and new adventures with New Beginnings this year. Leave your comments and ideas.
Joy and light,