For many this is not only the season of celebration and joy and peace, but also a time for remember the transition of those we have lost throughout the years. This year marks the 10th year of my husband’s death. Shall I call it an anniversary?
It was an early Monday morning (5:00 AM) that we experienced one of the most traumatic encounters of our lives.
Our 17 year old daughter was a senior in high school. When the doctors delivered this unfortunate announcement, her immediate response was “Daddy is not going to see me graduate”. I was instantaneously transformed into a pillar of strength — a guardian, a protector.
As senior class president, her graduation speech was phenomenal. We both know that her dad had the spiritual experience of being her greatest fan.
Ten years can seem like a very long time or if it involves a life partner, many of the moments cherished seem to be in the distant while others are very near and close to our hearts.
I remember the first few months of being home alone. I would listen for the sound of the garage door opening at 6:00 PM. It never opened. I sadly remembered it would not. I continued to sleep on my side of the bed. I recall returning from the college drop-off and unlocking the door to an empty space. I was alone for the first time in a very long time.
As the years have passed, I have become a caregiver, a coach, a best friend, an advocate. I am involved in community activities. I have had a few — not nearly enough — dates.
I have come to a better understanding of the importance of family — natural and chosen. I have done lots of soul searching. I am learning my real worth — mental, physical, spiritual, and financial.
Being there for others, makes it easier to share the experiences. It allows us to cherish the time we have with our love ones not only on holidays, but throughout the year. Our family celebrates just because we are special and deserving.
Tis the season of joy and love. How grateful I am to have had that special person in my life who shared and cared. Thank you, Joseph Mozelle.
Remember to focus on personal care during this holiday season. If the stress and overwhelm become more than you can handle, give me a call for a complimentary discovery session. Tis the season to share and care.
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